WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHY ONE PERSON IS SUCCESSFUL AND THE OTHER IS NOT?
What do you think is the difference between why one person is successful and another person isn’t?
It has very little, or nothing to do with circumstances.
I spent years trying to be successful before I became a Therapist, Coach and Healer, and I didn’t succeed. Not because I wasn’t privileged, or came from a disadvantaged background, – not at all.
I was educated, well brought up, had two Master’s Degrees’ and had plenty of resources in terms of resilience, perseverance and intellect.
Yet I couldn’t find happiness or make ends meet.
The Four Levels of Existence and Awakening.
There are, the way I see it, four levels of existence and awakening.
The first level is victimhood. This is where we feel we are the result of everything that has happened to us, and that is still happening to us. This is an illusion. People stuck in victim illusion seek therapy and analysis to “understand” “why” they are suffering. The develop stories, together with counsellors and psychotherapists about their childhoods, their parents, their experiences, and rationalize their pain through these stories. They feel and people tell them, that they are in a certain way because of certain experiences in childhood. This is a lie. This is an illusion, and a prison and a trap.
The second level is empowerment. When the individual begins to awaken to their own power. Now the individual begins to understand that suffering is not from “what happened” but from “how they view what happened”. The indiviudal begins to let go of victimhood. They begin to find power in their experiences. They transcend them. They realise they have beautiful gifts within and begin to lift these out and show the world. Maya Angelou, Ophra Winfrey, Tony Robbins. Wayne Dyer. All speak about the power of their spirit and soul – they feel themselves as more, much more than their experiences, and start to know there is an untouched glimmering part within, that fragment within being a fragment of the universal soul.
They value their spirit and take action and are empowered to create happiness and success and joy around. They take responsibility for their mind, and what they “make things mean”. But they still believe that any discomfort or pain is because of “other people”.
You hear people say, “I am getting rid of negative people from my life” not realising that it is them! They experience conflicts because “others” are not as enlightened as they. They only want to surround themselves with people who “inspire” them. There is a huge tinge of powerlessness still. They talk a good “spiritual” game but it is all talk.
It is here that people begin to understand the power of the unconscious mind, and the magic that happens when we clear the unconscious mind from debris. Opportunities come along. Things change.
The third stage is when the person begins to see magical synchronicities and experience almost spooky coincidences – as if the universe is conspiring for their success.
The person starts talking about surrender, letting go, meaningful “synchro-destinies”. They relax and the world seems to magically open up to them in a beautiful embrace. They lean back, and say wow – this law of attraction really works! But it is still all materialistic. They are rewarded with riches, beautiful things, money, wonderful relationships – but still things that are perceived as being “outside” and given the power to affect the inside.
The fourth stage is an awakening to the divine, sounding totally bonkers to the first and second stage, and a confusing possibility to the third stage (as they are still concerned with materialism). But this is when the individual begins to realise it is ALL THEM. Nobody outside is good or bad, or causing any happiness, or unhappiness but it is all inside.
They don’t feel there is a distinction between inside and outside anymore – the universe is within my mind and everything that exists in my awareness is within me – if I don’t like it it is not “you” it is “something in me”.
They need not look for riches anymore because the feeling of abundance and richness is so palpable within. They don’t look for a soul mate or a lover or partner, because the feelings of love is so strong within.
There is no inside, or outside, as it is all one. Some know it as the Zero state, infinity, being at one with the divine. There is no lack out there, so no need to “get” more, or achieve more, or find more.
💝✨🚀Life Coach – What is A Great Life Coach?
🤔A Great Life Coach is someone who:
- Opens up my world and imagination to what’s possible
- Awakens my potential and helps me realise it
- Helps me to tune in, see and appreciate my talents/resources
- Empowers me
- Makes me feel that change is possible and mine for the taking
The Beauty of You
I was listening to Virginia Satir this morning and it gave me some inspiration to share my thoughts with you …
“Most people give themselves “credit” only for the bad things they have inside, never for the good” – lovely quote from one of my favorite therapists of all time Virginia Satir
And isn’t that so true.
I am happy to share with you my failures, my weaknesses, “oh I am not very good at that” I say, or I am not feeling well, or I have a pain here, or there… or I am not good at maths, or at relationships, or whatever it may be…